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The Engineer and I celebrated our 1 month ‘anniversary’ yesterday. We BBQ’ed and then thawed our cake topper (I so wish I would have told our cake lady to put the raspberry filling in the topper. Oh well, you know what they say about hindsight), and watched “Dirty Jobs” followed by “The Soup” to celebrate. It was pretty uneventful.
Don’t get me wrong, it really doesn’t seem like we’ve been married for a month. Where did the time go!?!? I mean, I knew we had been really busy lately, but we’re busy every summer. Last summer we had weddings to attend for 6 straight weeks from June to July. This summer, we have events to attend every weekend until the middle of July.
Nevertheless, I just can’t get my head around the fact that we’ve been married for a whole month. That’s 31 days or 744 hours or 44640 blissful minutes. Seems like it happened yesterday.
To my best-est friend ”J” and my soon to be sister-in-law “Tink”, who are both getting married within the next year, some wedding words of wisdom:
Planning will likely consume you, and when you finally see the visions that you’ve had in your head play out in real life (and not just with the fun comical stick figures that your mind conjures up) it’s an unbelieveably fulfilling experience. You feel validated, you feel powerful (no one got my vision, everyone thought I was out of my mind. But look at this.. it’s stunning and beautiful, and it’s all MINE!!!!! <insert evil laugh here> ), you feel like every ounce of hard work and planning, decision making and second guessing was more than worth it. You do everything in you power to live in the moment. You dance, you laugh ALOT, your face hurts because you won’t can’t quit smiling. You stay up until 11:59 pm just so you can relive every minute of the day before it’s officially no longer your ‘wedding day’.
Why is this so important? Because when you wake up the next morning, it’s all over!
No one warned me about this (I’m blaming you JCB). I’ve heard stories about mother’s who are sad once they’ve given birth because they no longer have that intense bond with their born child and they did with their unborn child. Is it possible that you can feel that way about your wedding? All that planning and energy and work. It was an amazing day. It was everything I could have hoped for and I can’t think of a single thing that really went ‘wrong’. It was as close to perfect as anything could have been. But it’s over. It’s not going to happen again (God willing) and all I have to show for it is a husband (I heart you DH), a ton of free time, and 785 phenomenal pictures to remind me that my time as a bride is over.
It’s a concept that, as you can see, I’m having a hard time getting over. 31 days later, I still catch myself using my old last name, checking the “S” box under marital status, and asking the Engineer in disbelief “Did we really get married ?”. In my 25 26 27 28 years, I’ve never had to deal such personal change this quickly.
I guess it’s time to finally accept reality and change. I’m married, I have a new last name, I have to check the “M” box, and my wedding planning days are over.
And as for all the extra free time? I find that shopping does a nice job filling the void.
